One of the most complicated aspects of any long-term relationship is when one person wants sex and the other does not. So perhaps it is not surprising that men often want to have more sex over time while some women tend to shy away or reduce the number of times they want to engage in sex.
Each Person is Different Regarding Sexual Desire
The stress of daily living, raising children, and generally dealing with what life throws at you can affect your desire to engage in sex. Some may want more which is typical of men, while others may want to withdraw, which is more typical of women. But this is not always the case.
What follows are three simple guidelines that will help reveal whether the issue of sex is natural or simple passing in nature.
Ask if there is a Problem?
It’s impressive how many problems can be solved head-on when you confront them. For example, if you have noticed a pattern of your partner not wanting to engage in sex, ask if something is wrong. The answer you get will go a long way towards knowing what to do in the future.
It may be that you are the source of the issue, or your partner has been withdrawing for a specific reason. Whatever the answer you get, at least you can take the proper course of action from there. Remember that sex should happen because you and your partner want it to happen. Otherwise, you may be causing even more concerning issues.
Express Your Affection in Other Ways
Many men indeed lack the awareness of expressing their affection in ways other than having sex. While sex may seem to be the ultimate payoff of affection, the truth is that expressing your feelings in different ways can help kindle the fires of romance which may help your partner as much as you.
Holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, or saying ‘I love you without being prompted can help. Quite often, women and men want to hear about how their partner feels about them without it leading to something else. You do not want to make it appear that sex is the tradeoff for your affection, so be sure to emphasize your appreciation without demanding anything in return.
Create a Date Night or a Getaway
Although a sexual encounter can happen for about any reason, it does help when you make it a special night for both of you. Pick a date on the calendar and plan to have a night out. Make it so it is just the two of you. Seeing a movie, going to dinner, or planning a weekend together can make all the difference.
It may be that your desire to have sex more than your woman is a sign of something else going on. However, it is simply the natural changes in life as you progress through your relationship in most cases. So, start with expressing your feelings without asking for sex and move from there.
