There is a saying that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Given how many women feel about the men in their relationship, that perception does have some accuracy. Men and women are pretty similar in many respects but quite different in others. Understanding the differences can help overcome some of the most destructive love myths that have been around for centuries.
Many women believe that men do not care about making them happy and are not pulling their weight in making the relationship work. Or that they should be the one who loves and cherishes their partner more. It helps to take on these myths one at a time to make the best-informed decision on how to proceed with your relationship.
Men Don’t Care About Making Women Happy
Of course, some men may not care at all in terms of making their partner happy. But in many cases, the man does not have the same tools of expression or viewpoint of what makes someone happy compared to women.
Building a solid relationship takes more than the desire to do it. It takes learning specific skills and communication lines. Many men do not have the same basis for communicating their feelings compared to women. Sharing feelings is considerably different for most men and women.
So yes, most men want to make a woman happy. The trick is how to do it so that the woman perceives it as an attempt to make them happy.
Men Do Not Do Their Fair Share in a Relationship
This boils down to what is their fair share. What a man might perceive as his fair share may not be enough for his partner. Such impasses happen frequently and often result from a lack of honest communication.
Sitting down and expressing your feelings less aggressively can help the partner perceive how their relationship is going. For example, by telling him, “I feel hurt when … “. Another is, “When you did this, I saw it as … “. That helps bring some perspective to the man who may not see or fully understand what is happening.
Also, remember that he might have some feelings for you in this regard. Telling him things he may feel powerless to solve will not progress your relationship.
Honestly, expressing your feelings to resolve the problems will go a long way towards improving your relationship. Telling him what is important to you is an excellent first step. An old saying is that if you pretend someone doesn’t know something, having an ideal place to start is valuable advice. Everything begins with your views and how you can express them so that he sees how you feel.
