This particular ‘version’ may start with what you aspire to be in life. Your career, education, and social status goals. While many people dream of becoming an influencer, achieving a noble purpose or inspiring others to do better in their own lives, all of which require commitment, sacrifice, and persistence. So many fall short of their dreams because they do not associate improving themselves with achieving their goals.
To become the fastest runner, you must train diligently to transform your body so it can run at its top speed. Blood, sweat, and tears usually are part of the discipline process, especially in training to run. So too, are many physical, emotional, and sometimes financial challenges that you must overcome when striving to achieve anything new. Moving beyond your current state requires changes to your capacity to do what it takes to achieve your goals. These changes are not optional for reaching your goal. They are required.
When you commit to a positive, healthy relationship, you are also making changes that allow you to be your best self for your partner. You need to become the person who will do the most for your partner in good times. It means overcoming flaws in your character. Working on these character flaws ahead of time is always optimal, but it is also essential to continually improve any defects that may pop up in the course of day-to-day life. The self-improvement both partners must make require putting the fear of failure or rejection in its place so you can become the best version of yourself. Healthy relationships do take work, but the energy spent on improvement is always time well spent.
When you think of the people you look up to, which often starts with your parents, it may not be easy to imagine that they were different people before they met each other. What you see results today from many years of work to become their best selves.
Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
How to become the best version of yourself is not an easy question to answer because it will be a little different for everyone. However, becoming your best self in a relationship starts with the basics.
Be honest, truthful, and direct in your communication. Clear answers help move a relationship along healthily by avoiding self-defeating behaviors such as manipulation or control. Building a relationship on truth is the best foundation you can utilize, as the ties then have the possibility of withstanding any unexpected storms.
Place the interests of your partner in front of your own. It may require you to stretch yourself a bit while not losing your own identity. You do not have to become the other person entirely, but paying attention to their needs, interests, and desires goes a long way to understanding each other on a deeper level. You may even find something new that you enjoy too in the process.
Discovering what is good for both of you instead of just focusing on yourself is the foundation of becoming a better partner and person.
Keep in mind that becoming the best version of yourself is not going to be quick. It takes a lifetime of learning, adjusting, and striving to discover your weaknesses and enhance your strengths. Some of these changes involve choices that may not seem obvious now but, once fully realized, become necessary as time passes.
Changing to your best self will start with getting to know yourself. What is it that you would like to change and why? It should be to make yourself a better person. Being in a loving relationship offers a powerful motivation to make the changes necessary. Remember, you will not be perfect, but no one is perfect. But being your best self is an achievable goal, especially in a robust and committed relationship.
