Love is a magical thing. However, too many people believe that once love is gone, it is forever. That is not true, especially if you have put in the effort to make it work. If the feelings you once had are no longer present and you want to rekindle the feelings of love, you will need to work on your side. Your partner will also need to put in the same effort on their side.
Keep in mind that this is going to take time. It took time for you to fall in love. It takes time to maintain feelings of love. So, it will take some time before you can rekindle such feelings. So, keep working towards your goal together.
Choose Your Words Wisely
It’s often not what you say, but how you say it, that may cause issues in your relationship. Speak from your heart. Express how you feel about various topics but avoid accusations. To build back the feelings of love, you must deal with your emotions first. Doing a personal inventory will help you see some things in yourself that may open your eyes to the root of issues in your relationship. Plus, your word choice can impact your partner positively or negatively. So take time and consider your words when talking, especially about challenging topics.
Choose your words so that the love you want to rekindle is put first and foremost. Keep your focus on solving issues and not making them worse. In other words, stop creating more problems when trying to work through the ones you are experiencing. Avoid harshness or accusations at all costs.
Focus on the Little Things
While there is always room for grand gestures, the little things usually make the biggest impression. Start small with words and gestures that show how much you love your partner. You can start with small gifts, but just expressing how you feel is a great way to get the ball rolling. Even just saying “hello” to your partner indicates that you are thinking of them. The goal is to express the importance of the relationship. So, you should do the little things that help make the more important things come true.
All you do regarding your relationship should be build bridges, not tear them down. While there may be times when your partner does something that disappoints you, instead of lashing out, you should instead focus on what to do about it rather than languish on how you feel about it.
Cultivate Your Relationship
Perhaps the most overlooked aspect of rekindling feelings of love is that your efforts need to happen daily. One grand gesture is OK, but not good enough. You need to demonstrate your feelings every day. Place greater importance on how your partner feels, putting their interests ahead of your own, and doing more things together.
Of course, you do not want to go overboard. Just start with one thing per day and build from there. You may find that the feelings of love only need a little attention each day to get things going.
By practicing these suggestions, you can rekindle the feelings of love between you and your partner. Remember that anything worthwhile will take consistency of effort, so start today and do something each day.
