Many people feel that the romance in our relationship may dry up after some time has passed. One of the most important reasons for this drought is that we stopped giving our love, care, and attention as frequently as we once did. What we used to do automatically now requires thought and often reminders from our partner, which does not help rekindle romantic feelings.
But all is not lost. You probably have seen many couples together for a long time, and they still have that romantic spark. You may wonder if what they are experiencing is the exception, not the rule. The truth is that most relationships built for the long haul can continue to spark romantic feelings. But only if you do the work necessary.
What Causes the Romantic Drought?
Before fixing an issue, you must understand what it is and how it is not working, like repairing a car or fixing a relationship so that romance blooms again requires the proper diagnosis.
In many cases, the feelings of romance dry up because life and responsibilities come to the forefront. For example, marriage followed by additional financial obligations such as buying a new house, committing to work, and raising a family can pull away from the idyllic days when you first felt romantic feelings towards each other.
But that does not mean that the feelings of romance are gone. Instead, they have been pushed back because of other issues your relationship undergoes. So, in other words, there is hope that the romance can come back because it has not left in many ways.
How to Open the Flood Gates?
It all begins by doing something small. It is often a small gift for no reason, a walk in the park, or even a night out for dinner that can help restart romantic feelings.
Starting minor and viewing this as a marathon, not a sprint, will provide some needed patience. In other words, do not expect romance’s fires to burn brightly immediately. It may take a little time before that occurs.
In addition, if things do not get off on the right foot, you can always start again. That’s the advantage of starting small and building up over time.
You may find issues to address before you can restart the romance, from making time away from work and family to addressing problems in communication.
Remember to take it one step at a time and one moment at a time. “Rome was not built in a day,” restarting a romance will take a little time. But you can rest assured that it will not take as long to create as building Rome from the ground up.
The best time to start is right now. First, buy a gift for no reason but to show how much you care. Then do a little extra around the home to demonstrate how you love being part of this relationship. Start with that, and the fires of romance will follow.
