The popular notion of romance is focused on people falling in love, not being in love. This is expected since so much literature, stories, and presentations involve two people meeting for the first time—romance blossoms from that moment which seems so strong because two people are discovering each other.
However, romance does not end once the relationship begins. As falling in love gives way to being in love, romance can still be part of the equation. The secret lies in continuing to develop your relationship over the years.
Is Your Romance Alive and Well?
Take some time and genuinely look to see the health of your romance. Is it healthy, or needing a makeover? The bond you feel between each other is romantic. After all, your commitment is based on love, of which romance is a part. Even if your feelings of romance have dimmed over the years, they have helped to create a foundation of love, trust, and commitment that is part of your relationship today.
So, the romance is still present even if the feeling is different. However, if you want to recharge the sense of romance in your life, you must make a few changes.
How to Revive Your Romance as Necessary
The best place to start is to ask why your relationship seems to lack romance now. A relationship becomes a marriage or long-term commitment that develops a sense of familiarity. Routines become set, and before you know it, each day becomes like the last one. Years pass, and while your relationship is still strong, it does not feel as new and exciting as it did when you first met.
You can start by doing something different. Keep the first steps small and manageable, such as going for a walk together around the block, catching a movie, or dining out. It’s a great way to be together and rekindle feelings of romance.
Then, expand your activities to include a weekend getaway. You are perhaps visiting a place that you have never been to before. To spark up a romance, you need to try new things, just like you did when you first started dating. The goal is to create new memories and not just relive old ones.
Keep things simple. Do not try to do too much too soon. Like starting a fire, you need to start with something small to get it going. Then, add more substantial elements to build a fire back up again. Patience will be a virtue when sparking feelings of romance.
Of course, different couples have different ways of bringing the feelings of romance back. Therefore, you may need to try a few other things to get it right. However, do not be discouraged if some things you try do not work. Failure does not mean something is wrong in your relationship. It simply means that whatever you tried did not do the trick. At the very least, the failures will make for a great story to tell in your later years.
